“Ultimately, it’s the quality of our relationships that will determine the quality of our lives”.

Ester Perel, ‘Mating in Captivity’

Most people who come to relationship therapy aren't in crisis. They're stuck. The same argument, cycling round. A distance that's grown slowly enough that neither person quite noticed when it started. A sense that you're talking but not really reaching each other.

I work with couples and with relationships of all kinds - romantic partnerships, family members, colleagues - wherever there's an impasse that's become hard to move through alone. I'm as comfortable working with a long-term couple renegotiating their life together as I am with two (or more) people trying to figure out whether to embark on a shared future and what that might look like.

I don't come into the room with a view on what the outcome should be. My job isn't to keep you together or to help you separate, it's to help each person in the room feel genuinely heard, to create enough space and to offer you some new relationship tools so that something different can become possible.

Common reasons people come to relationship therapy

  • Communication that keeps breaking down in the same way

  • Rebuilding trust after infidelity or a significant breach

  • A major life transition - a new baby, bereavement, illness, retirement

  • Intimacy difficulties

  • Separation and how to navigate it well

  • Pre-marital counselling

How I work

I trained in Couples and Relationship Therapy with The Grove Practice and The Gottman Institute. Both of these models offer a practical framework for understanding where relationships get stuck and what can help them move. A typical session gives space for both of you to explore what the issue looks like from your side of the sofa - and I’ll help you notice patterns in your ways of communicating that might be contributing to the problem, and practical ways of changing it.

Working with families affected by eating disorders

I also work with families where a member is living with an eating disorder. This is an area I've worked in for many years - the impact on the whole family system is often underestimated, and finding support together can make a significant difference. Sessions can be held in person in Cambridge or online.

Practical details

Sessions are 50 minutes and take place in central Cambridge or online. Fee: £120 per session.

If you'd like to find out more or arrange an initial conversation, please get in touch.

Fees: £120 (50 minutes)